Monday Motivation – Thoughts on Discipline



Alright everyone. I’m putting myself out there this week. More than I normally do, in hopes to really lay it out there…

I stumbled upon an article on discipline while mindlessly perusing the Internet (anyone else do that??) and it was one of the few articles that really resonated with me. Maybe it’s where I’m at on my journey, maybe it’s because it was short & to the point…but either way, I thought it was worth capturing and sharing my thoughts with all of you.

As those of you closest to me know, I would not use the word “disciplined” to describe myself. I always thought “hard working”, “goal oriented”, “type A”, etc. would be adjectives that compromise who I am & who I want to be, but when I look back at some of the goals I set, I find that more often than not, I lack on the follow through…and it sucks. That’s not the person I want to be. It’s not the mom I want to be. And it’s not who I am going to be going forward.

It’s not a good feeling to look back and think, “Wow. I didn’t accomplish what I wanted, and now look where I am.” I’ve tried to do some soul searching lately to figure out what the root cause could possibly be…

What I’ve found is that at the end of the day, I lack discipline. I’m okay taking the easy way out. I’m okay missing my goal if it saves me from discomfort. For every positive & reassuring quote out there to keep me motivated, there are an equal number of quotes reassuring me that it’s okay to fall short of my goals. That it’s okay to stay status quo.

But I know that to achieve anything worthwhile, a level of discomfort is to be expected. A level of sacrifice is needed to attain success.

However the real question I’ve always grappled with…is it worth it????

In the past, quite honestly, I’d probably say “no”. I’m okay with the extra 10 pounds. I’m okay with my work output. I’m okay with my friendships. I’m okay with how much I read, I give, I love, I play.

I think I’ve FINALLY come to a point where I’m ready. I’m ready to take the next step. To set a goal and achieve it. To feel the victory of success & know that I can do hard things.

The article I read had 5 easy steps: Set a goal. List your reasons. Identify any obstacles. Create new behaviors. Stay focused. 

That’s it.

So in my constant attempt to get back to that pre-baby weight (I have sooo many clothes just waiting to be worn again!) here it goes for all to read:

Goal weight = wear this dress again!
  • Set a goal:
    • My goal is to get back to pre-baby weight of 130lbs in 6 weeks (officially by August 29).
  • Reasons:
    • Self confidence – get my confidence back to run in a sports bra, go to the pool, fit in my clothes!
    • Health – I know that 130lbs is an ideal weight for my height & age
    • Energy – Eating well makes me feel better, sleep better & be better
    • Prove to myself I can set goals & achieve them!
  • Identify Obstacles/Strategies:
    • Obstacles: Cravings. Social plans (Aidan’s 1st birthday party is next Saturday…). Travel. Discipline.
    • Strategies: Meal prep. Eat every 3 hours. Drink enough water (64oz). Use gum/mints to hold off! Plan ahead. Be up front with friends, family & work about my goals to stay on track. Acknowledge that this is short term pain for long term reward. Use MyFitness Pal to log my food & exercise.
  • Create New Behaviors:
    • Drink 64oz of water a day
    • Limit wine/beer
    • Eat small every 3 hours – you saw my healthy snack post right??
    • Track food in MyFitness Pal
    • Post progress on the blog!
  • Stay Focused
    • I know this won’t be easy. Week 1 will be the worst.

You may roll your eyes and think, “here we go again….”, but I know it’s never too late to try again. Whatever goal you’ve set over and over (and over and over…) and have still failed to attain. Make the commitment to try again today.

Follow my on Instagram, Pinterest & Snapchat (aliciamurphy625) for more – we’re in this together. I know I could use the encouragement & positive motivation on the way! I follow the Tone It Up, Self Magazine, and WellAndGoodNYC Instagram for some daily motivation as well!

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  • With your increased workout schedule for your upcoming marathon, I think it will just happen naturally, although it may not happen in the time frame you have set for yourself. Maybe extend that time frame a couple of months and don’t be too hard on yourself. ENJOY this upcoming trip, and don’t leave out the Jameson or Guinness. 🙂 This is from a major “Type B” personality. 🙂

  • I started on my healthy eating/exercise plan about 14 months ago. It probably took me at least a month to get used to eating less and moving more, but it worked, and I’ve been able to stick with it. I’m actually fitting into clothes I haven’t worn since high school 🙂 I love that quote too!

  • I hope you crush this lady and that dress is a great goal! I just started my fines journey July 8th the day before my birthday. I just want to be a healthier version of myself. So much love and support to you. I hope you crush it.

  • This is me! I’m a hard worker, Type A, etc., but I do lack the discipline. I have started and given up a bunch of times and like you, I’m through and need a change. This morning I woke up and worked out, it is my third day without soda, and I’m choosing to have a different outlook. You’ve got this!